Si ai bin n kiasu

Lately I was watching a Singaporean series entitle house of joy. though it may be a quite old movie to some. But I feel that it really have thought me a lot about myself.
It is typical that people are really Kiasu and si ai bin or afraid to lose and thick skinned. It is true that we all always to into account what others think about us. This makes us lose our own self because our minds are controlled by our heart to save our skin and try to get the sense of belonging to a certain group of friends. This makes me feel that what one really need to do is try to be who we really are but be open to all form of criticism be it how we dress or look, and how is our behavior. For me I think the most important thing to look at when others criticize is out attitude and behavior.
Believe it or not, I'm still a more to eastern culture though I may be liberal in my actions. There is just a line that defines my actions and that line is our Asian culture and believe that draws my line of liberalization especially in relationship. I believe in the a true love where everything is perfect and the spouse is the most suitable couple. There will only be a woman to complete a man. And that person must understand and share the same interest and instinct. That is only when one can be really  who they are because most couple have to give and end up losing who they are. I believe in an equal share of burden in a family where the husband and wife are equally involved in raising up the children and running the house errants. I read about husbands taking a paternity leave for a half year in Europe to help the wife in taking care of their babies. That is the true sense of family. Both parents cooperate and shower their children with all the love and attention that they need.
Next is the problem of si ai bin. Believe it or not that people are easily intimidated when others have something better than them. some case as earlier on. People are too conscious about what type of job they are doing and the house they are living in. Though sometime I felt so, but I realized that all of those does not matter. what really ,matter is who and what we are.  One may own the whole world but do not enjoy at all. Though I always wanted a bigger room and spacious room, on the bright side, it is troublesome for me to keep it spick and span all the time. Furthermore, I can save the forest from being cut down if I learn to give up some space for it. But one must really be sure that one can really afford to pay all the price for a big house if one really wants to live in one. For me, why live in an expensive, luxurious, and high maintenance house when one can live in a simple one. After all, I'm not at home all the time!
What is wrong to be a hawker? DO you know kolo mee seller can easily chalk up RM2000 per month. That is more than enough to live on as far as I'm concern if u stay in Kuching. Though more is better. BUt we can just take up other part time jpb like be an assistant at sunday market. Mind you that I did that job for I think around half year when I was younger. There is nothing wrong to go out to work in a market. At least I get the persuasion techniques and street smart.
I actually gone through a lot up and downs in my  own life especially when I was a shop assistant for a month. It was a reality check on me when things seems to be more complicated than it seems. Well I learned my lesson that is to be careful when meeting stranger especially at work place because look can be deceiving. The feeling of being back stab and the enduring pain that one has to suffer.
WHAT IS WRONG WITH HUMANITY? I mean people do not mean what they say. Basically there are few kind of people irrespective of races.
1) Those who like to say something that even they themselves do not know (do not believe in a single word they say or place a high hope on such person or feel the feeling of betrayal when that person do not do what they promise)
2) Those who are easily influence by others opinion of who and what they are (very confused mind and very emotional when people say something about them- learn to listen more to such person as mostly such girls needs a listening partner than one who ask them what they should do)
3) Those who keep to their word ( do not misuse such person as such kind hearted person always places others priority before their own)
4) Those who like to back stab and very good at acting ( such type of person are very sly and like to use others for their advantage at the expense of others)
5) Those who are very good at persuasion ( suitable for marketing but have attitude problem especially when misuse it)
6) very strong person mentally - able to face all the challenges
7) prince charming type of person- only have good look but when the true test come he will flee right away  for fear of losing his image
most of the time its a combination of a few in a person that makes human dinamic